Tuesday, February 11, 2014

My boyfriend part 2

When we are in a relationship, we are expected to share our happiness, our obstacles, and our life together with our partners, in order to make them feel comfortable and belong. By sharing our deepest emotions and secrets with our beloved partners, this can only build on a stronger foundation for the relationship. We build trust for each other because we can confide with one another. We build a stronger and more passionate love for each other. We become more understanding of what our partner needs and doesn't need. We can not be selfish and only  share the good news that happens in our life, leaving behind the sorrows and obstacles hidden in our hearts. A relationship is a working progress built by two people, who truly loves each other, and who truly doesn't want their partner to be sad. In a relationship, it is never straight. It has its bumpy moments, and curvy times, but we should understand that no matter how bumpy the road is, we have our partner besides us. Unfortunately, my boyfriend doesn't feel that way, and doesn't treat me that way.

Tonight after I talked with my boyfriend on the phone, my boyfriend made me feel offended and sad, but he never realized that he always does this to me. My boyfriend told me on the phone that he was feeling exhausted. I asked him why, and asked if it was a physical cause or an emotional cause. My boyfriend just simply replied emotional exhaustion. Of course, I continued to ask him once more, why he feels emotionally exhausted, but he just replied that everything in his life is making him feel that way. That means,both his family and myself are overwhelming him. I continued to ask what we did to make him feel such way, but he said that he will be OK, and he doesn't want to talk about it. I am offended that he doesn't treat me like a real partner, and believes that I can be sympathetic for his situations. I am sad because this hurts my feelings. It has happened many times. I feel like an outcast. I want to know what his family did to make him feel stress. Is it because he's tired of going to church with his dad? Is it because he's tired of the family he has grown up in, with his parents unable to happily live together like any old couples? Is he stress out living with his dad, and not living with his mom? Is he worry about money? I want to know what I did to make him feel stress out emotionally. Is it because I always ask for gifts and vacations? Is it because I'm rushing him into marrying me? Is he worry whether he can not afford for me an engagement ring i like? Is he scared that we won't be happy together? Is it because he thinks I won't get along with his parents once I move in with him? There are endless questions that pops in my head whenever he tells me he's exhausted and sad.

My boyfriend doesn't understand that its important for him to share his feelings with me. Only sharing how he feels, can only improve our relationship because I will better understand as a friend and lover. I know that even if he tells me about his problems, I probably can't do anything to help him, but by expressing one's feelings, we can feel better. I really don't know why my boyfriend feels stress out, but everyone in this world has their own problems. I am hurt every time he chooses not to share with his personal problems because I feel like he doesn't treat me as someone close enough for him to exploit his feelings. It makes me feel like he doesn't trust me, which only hurts me more. When I'm sad, I tell my boyfriend everything, and I know he can't do anything, but having him listen to it, makes me a little better. I want to be able to do the same thing for him. This happens so many times between us, but my boyfriend just doesn't understand that the more he does this, the more he's pulling me away and only hurting me. I wished my boyfriend would be able to open his heart and give me his hands, so that I can heal any wounds he may have, and lift him up when he falls. 


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